Really...

I recently read an interview John Mayer did for the March issue of Best Life a mens magazine, he basically talks about his future wife and some of his expectations. Here’s the quote that’s got me thinking:

But what about his future wife? Will his future wife bitch and moan about it and tell him, for instance, that he can’t go on tour this year, because she has other plans and what about her plans for a change? She will not. She will be incredibly happy for him. She will say, “I understand.” And she will say, “No complaints.”

I think about my wife all the time,” says Mayer. “I kind of obsess on it, and what I want to find is a person who can speak those kinds of magic words. I mean ‘No complaints’ is a great way to live. Also, I want a woman who doesn’t hear ‘How are you?’ as ‘I would like you to come up with something dramatic now that will allow me to sit in front of you and give you more attention than I would have if you had just said ‘No complaints.’ When I find the person I can relate to on that level and who is also a pinup and who also says ‘Can I please take pictures of your ass?’ then I am going to get married to her. That I can promise you.”

I think that this how guys think in general. I think that they expect to have a relationship where there is no conflict. Where she just one of his boys who is like ‘Yeah man, your right.’ And looks great in lingere, Is that what Mayer wants? I don’t know. (For his sake I hope not.) Regardless as a single woman I know men who thing this way, that Gisele Bunchen, or any of the Victoria Secret models is what they should get. For the women in their lives to just smile and have his slippers, ready with glass of scotch when he gets home. Now I won't mind having that all for my man but, the man I end up with will do the same for me. It's an unrealistic ideal for any man, yet I believe that so many are still holding out for that ideal.

I'm not blaming this on my single status by any means. I'm not desperate to get married, I believe that chapter in my life will come and when it does it will be great. I just think that we need to take each other as we are, and allow the human thing to touch one another.